Stop crying. Be a man.
It’s what boys are taught when they’re four years-old.
It’s what they grow up to believe as forty year-olds
As centuries of patriarchy continue to define who a ‘real man’ is, a society driven by gender-roles isn’t helping. Studies have proven the perceived importance among men to suppress emotions, demonstrate they’re in control and refrain from seeking help in moments of distress. All of which has resulted in twice as many Indian men committing suicide as compared to Indian women (source: National Crimes Records Bureau).
Dr Kersi Chavda, Consultant Psychiatrist, Hinduja and Sir HN Reliance Hospital, explains: "In terms of suicides, what often gets ignored is what strikes at the kernel of the masculine-feminine divide... a myth one has to "live up" to the role dictated by gender. This causes depression and trauma, and death is often seen as the only way to survive. Gender behaviour is a myth, and a different behaviour, liking or mindset, is not necessarily a wrong one."
Our second series, #DontBeAMan, highlights how patriarchal gender-based societal expectations to display one’s masculinity, is driving more men to take their lives, than ever before.
If you are in distress, and need professional assistance, speak to a counsellor on:
1800 233 3330 - 24*7 toll free Jeevan Aastha helpline,
or on 022-25521111 iCALL helpline from TISS.